Soulful Wellness

Life Coaching, Counseling, Mental Wellness, | South Carolina, USA

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Which coach are you listening to?

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Two Voices and Two Very Different Coaches

What voice do you choose to listen to?

Growing up I played a lot of sports, but primarily tennis. I was fortunate enough to learn something from one of my coaches that sustained me through the competing years as well as helped me to be successful in navigating my life’s many trials. It is a simple but powerful principal that I actually assist my clients with. We each have the voice of a “coach” within our minds. How that Coach speaks to you, is of your own choosing.

Does your Coach show up negative, angry, and berating you for every thing you don’t execute perfectly? Yelling and putting you down for simple mistakes?
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Does your Coach show up with encouragement, love, and inspiration for what you are doing correct? Does the Coach tell you in a positive and uplifting way how to correct mistakes?

How you choose to talk to yourself is of vital importance. What voice you choose to use and listen to, when coaching yourself through life’s challenging determines a great deal of whether you have a higher energy level to achieve success or you fail and drop into despair or depression. We all fail at what we want to accomplish sometimes. That is the challenge of this life. But, how we choose to speak to ourselves through those failures and challenges determines how quickly we bounce back and how successful we ultimately are.

Many of us have grown up with a negative coach speaking to us. Whether that voice was from our parents, coaches, or teachers. The tendency is to take on their voices when we talk to ourselves. It is time to be mindful of the voice you project towards yourself. Remember, energy attract like energy. You will pull to yourself the reflection of your own inner world. So, choosing how you speak to yourself can literally change your existence. Choosing to have an inner coach that inspires, encourages, motivates, and celebrates you is one of life’s greatest opportunities.

Try it out. Pick one area of your life right now that is challenging. What has your inner coach been telling you and in what tone? If it’s negative, then change it into a positive coach that can push you to be better while at the same time being your biggest supporter. One thing you may notice is that if you have had a predominately negative coach for most of your life, you will have both coaches vying for dominance. You will hear the inspiring coach and then right behind it you will hear the negative coach. Just stay consistent with putting more energy into the positive coach, until the negative coach fades into the background. You will start to see a change in your situation. Energy attracts like energy. It’s just a matter of time.

The positive coach, is the voice within you that is instinctual when truly acknowledged and guides with inner wisdom and empowers you to your unlimited potential. All your answers to your challenges already lie within you. You just have to connect with the right inner coach to tap into that wisdom and unlimited energy. Turn your: “I can’t, I should, and I have to, into: I can, I choose too, and I get to. Turn your drained, bottomless pit energy into energy that motivates and sustains you. It starts with what coach/voice you choose to listen too. What voice is predominate in your mind?

Start to listen to those regularly around you. What type of inner coaches do they have? It will come out in their speech and tone of voice. How they talk about themselves and others, shows what kind of coach is driving their actions. We all show up in the outside world according to how we exist in our inner world.

A Life Coach is a great asset to helping you find your inner inspirational coach and voice. When activated you can go from striving and expending a lot of energy that stays stagnant to truly thriving with expanding, evolving, and endless energy.

Start to listen to your positive coach and watch your life transform.

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Opportunities for Growth

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ALL EXPERIENCES ARE OPPORTUNITIES FOR GROWTH

“Are your painful experiences stumbling blocks or stepping stones?” -Bruce D Schneider

The last couple of weeks have seemed to hold intense challenges for many of us, uncovering deep layers of pain and other patterns of behaviors. Many of us are waking up to the influence(s) in our lives due to unhealed pain and even the subconscious ways we can sabotage ourselves due to them.

How do you find the way through these challenges in a way that empowers you to your highest level of existence and wholeness? To live consciously as well as subconsciously from a place of wholeness and not the trauma(s)?

We must be willing to first look at ourselves and be completely raw about what we are feeling and thinking at the root cause. We need to go through the fire of accepting it as an experience that has held weight over our lives. We acknowledge it, accept it, and give compassion to the way it has influenced us.

Once we see do that we can then decide what to do with that pain/trauma. Because, we know that when we do not face our trauma’s they are kept alive and powerful in our psyche.

You and you alone get to choose how to transmute the pain and trauma and use the lessons from it in a positive way to enrich your life. Every negative that you have survived has made you stronger and more powerful. Transmuting the negative side of that trauma into strength of mind and body. Embracing the positive side of what has been forged within you from survival.

Growth requires raw honesty and heartfelt compassion towards oneself. You have to drop into the core of your being and transmute into something more than the what has happened to you. Just like a phoenix rising from the ashes. You have to go to the root cause and then reshape it into something that adds power into your existence once again.

When you transmute the root cause of pain/trauma you change your patterns of behavior that even subconsciously show up.

Use the fullness of your life experiences for growth and use the stepping stones of your pain to reach new heights. Self awareness around the patterns of our being is an excellent place to start healing.

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Choosing Your 2025 Energy

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The last few years have carried their own challenging energies of struggle, solitude and deep introspection. Different aspects of your life may have shifted to now be more in alignment with your core values and desires. This can show up as new friends in your inner circle or a new job that provides you with more joy and fulfillment. Things are still shifting into authenticity, love and alignment with your deepest truths and values.

What is the energy you are choosing to embody on your 2025 journey? You are a creative force and can make your life exactly how you want it to be. Every thought that you choose to own, every belief, choice, and action becomes an act of creation. The energy you embody this year can be about creating your new reality with focused intention so you are able to leave behind the fight to simply survive.

Choosing to align with the things that are healthy for your mental well-being is crucial right now. A remarkable fact to ponder is that every cell in your body has receptors that respond to the thoughts you own, emotions you carry, and action you perform. You can literally reorganize your cells to support your truest nature and the person you desire to become. You have the amazing ability to stop living from conditioned patterns of being and transform your entire life.

You carry the blueprint for your own energetic sovereignty.

Thinking of the year ahead, envision the whole year and what living your most authentic life would embody. What are the empowering thoughts that surround your new vision? What are the deepest emotions that inhabit the vision? What would the inspired action look like in order to create your new vision? Within the answers to these questions is the energy that your soul and authentic self is wanting you to choose for 2025.

If you desire assistance in mapping out the steps that would aid you in creating your new reality or simply clearing away blocks that prevent your vision from becoming reality, reach out to us today. This year is going to be amazing and life-changing in every way so let’s make it the best one for the history book of our lives.

Remember to choose primarily from your heart space, live authentically and master your own energy.

-Soulful Wellness

Head & Heart Together

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In life we often get into the habit of making our decisions solely from the more masculine energy of the head or by the feminine energy of the heart space. Rarely are we engaging both when we sit with a situation or circumstance.

We forget to check in with our feelings about our process and we make a decision that intellectually might seem good but in fact could be completely out of alignment with our heart. This is very connected to a trauma response within decision making, where we only use our intellect and never check in with our heart. On the flip side, there can be decisions we make only from our heart and do not think through logically.

The best decision making happens when both are in alignment for our highest good. That can only be when we engage both of these energies. When aligned they are very anabolic in nature. It takes both logic (head) and intuition (heart) to come into alignment with your highest soul choices.

Let’s explore both of these energies:

Head/Masculine Energy –

  • Logic and decision making
  • Singularity of purpose and direction
  • Solution-based thinking
  • Controlling and pursuing
  • Competition and ambition
  • Strategy and rationality
  • Striving and reasoning
  • Linear process

Heart/Feminine Energy –

  • Intuition
  • Compassion and grace
  • Emotions and feelings
  • Trusting in natural outcomes
  • Connection and peace
  • Inner Truth resides
  • Nurturing
  • Flowing process

At the end of any decision when we are looking to establish clarity and balance, it requires us to possess both of these energies to achieve ultimate balance. To problem solve from the intellect of the head and then drop into the heart space to see how it feels and what our intuition is telling us, brings about decisions that align with who we really are.

You will feel more empowered and have a stronger sense of clarity when you make decisions by using both your head and your heart. This helps you to access the higher levels of anabolic energy and creates solutions that are balanced and aligned for your life.

We are here to help you navigate how to engage both head and heart so you can feel at peace when making decisions.

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Creating Solutions

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How do you create solutions?

There are many times in life that we get stuck in our heads trying to find the right solutions to obstacles we are facing. Many of us have a habit of going inward to figure things out and ruminating in our own minds. When the answers do not come swiftly enough for our liking, we enter into a state that propels our emotions into a downward spiral that is unhealthy for our well-being.

A statement in Dr. Ramani’s new book, IT’S NOT YOU: IDENTIFYING AND HEALING FROM NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE states: “Rumination without solution is depression.”

Many of us relate to this statement and have experienced it on some level. When we ruminate on something for too long without a solution, it can cause us to descend into depression, anxiety, loneliness, and fear.

So, how do we create solutions with greater ease in order to experience breakthroughs? It can vary greatly, depending on your specific personality and your way of being in the world. A life coach can be extremely helpful in your process but here are but a few ideas:

  • Go outside into nature and absorb it all by breathing in some good endorphins. Science has proven that being in nature aids in your cognitive abilities. It improves your mood, mental health, and emotional well-being. It literally helps you be happier.
  • Speak with a trusted confidant, whether that be a close friend, family member, therapist, or coach. We are all designed for connection with others and sometimes all we need is to simply gain a fresh perspective by talking it out with a trusted companion.
  • Exercise. Go for a walk, run, hike, swim, do yoga, dance, or play a sport. Regardless of which exercise you choose, it has the benefits of reducing stress levels, promoting better sleep, boosting your energy as well as your ability to mentally focus.

These are just a few examples that can aid in your energetic levels rising. When you feel stuck in the energetic frequency of depression, anxiety or fear, you cannot and will not see the possibilities and solutions available to you.

By shifting your energy levels into a place that strengthens and helps you come alive again with hope, faith and joy, you will see infinite opportunities and possibilities on how to move forward.

If you need help in talking something out and finding a transformative solution, we are here to help you. Don’t stay in rumination without a solution!

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Soul Searching

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WHAT PRICE DO OTHERS PAY TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU?

That question has created a lot of thought and change within my world recently. In my opinion, it is one of the most powerful questions that we can ask ourselves.

How do you act and react to others within your sphere of influence on a daily basis? Are you consistent in your demeanor and essence or are you erratic? Are you kind and compassionate or angry and spiteful? Are you sporadic in your actions or dependable? Is the theme of your communication negative or positive?

The way that we show up within our friendships and relationships either adds value to the other person or it tears them down and drains them of energy.

It is completely acceptable to have feelings and to speak about what is going on inside our hearts when needed. At the same time, if you look at the picture of your life, what comes out as the largest percentage of your essence? Is it negative or positive, draining or uplifting, fear based or hope and faith inspired? Are your facial features relaxed and at peace or scrunched up and frustrated? Are your thoughts and actions aligned with adding value to the person you are speaking with? Do you care about what they have to say or are you solely for yourself?

We are always conveying a very specific presence and energy to those we encounter. Energy attracts like energy. For example, Walking down the sidewalk and smiling at people has the effect of others smiling back at you and wanting to have conversations. On the flip side, if you walk down the same sidewalk with an angry scowl on your face, others will actively avoid you.

Those people within the closest heart space to you whom you interact with consistently (whether a spouse, significant other, parents, children) experience you as your most authentic self. Do you show up for them from a healed place of being or are there areas in your life that still require healing? What about those areas that rear their ugly head when you are not at peace and are experiencing stress? What does this do to the people around you? Do they shut down and go inward to avoid conflict or do they yell back at you? What is the feedback you are getting from them in the moment and the moments afterward?

What price are you willing to pay to be in a relationship with those currently around you? What price are they paying to be in relationship with you? What needs to change in how you show up?

Letting others know that you are open to hearing feedback about how you show up and what their experience is of you will give a profound glimpse into how you are coming across and the price others are paying to be around you. You can add great value and peace to someone’s life but it is all in how you choose to be and whether you are doing the necessary soul work to heal your own wounds. By doing the soul searching necessary to heal past hurts, we are then able to be in others’ lives with love, authenticity and peace. We can heal instead of damage one another.

How do you want to shift and change your manner of being in order to be a beacon of steadiness in your actions? How deeply do you desire to be dependable in your moods, having strength in your spirit with joy and peace in your presentation to others?

There are always more ways in which we can improve our essence.

We are here to help you heal and shift where needed on your journey to wholeness and ultimate wellbeing.

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Authenticity & Love

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Recently there has been a lot of discussion on Authenticity vs Love and which one is of a higher frequency. This has provided an interesting deep dive into the unique place that each holds within the emotional spectrum.

Thoughts and emotions vibrate at certain frequencies of energy which directly impact our overall physical and emotional well-being.For example, authenticity and love vibrate at a much higher frequency than fear and anger.

The “SPANE” Scale of emotion, which is a conceptual scale developed by Ed Diener et al. in 2009, measures the intensity and frequency of emotions. The Spane Scale placed authenticity at a higher frequency than love. Truthfully, how can you deeply love yourself or others with purity of intention if you are not being 100% authentically yourself?

Many of us have been taught to be people pleasers and have conformed our natural states of being to fit into external expectations. These are our conditioned behaviors that drain us of energy and prevent us from reaching our full potential, and authentic relationships. Showing up this way in the world conflicts directly with our true, authentic selves.

On the other hand, when our internal world aligns with our external actions, we in fact reduce internal conflict resulting in higher states of wellbeing and harmony in our relationships, with authentic love being manifested. We are then able to foster a sense of inner peace and resiliency by trusting our soul’s inner compass and are once again aligned with our innermost values, personality, spirit, and character.

Studies have indicated that individual’s who are living authentically tend to have higher self-esteem, lower stress-levels, deeper & more satisfying relationships, and better psychological health. Authenticity fosters within you a sense of peace and secure belonging. In it’s highest form, authenticity enhances the experience of love, which causes our emotional bonds to become profoundly genuine. Reason being: Energy Attracts Like Energy.

Authenticity is being true to your soul. Embracing your soul’s authenticity can be a challenging journey but it will also become one of the most rewarding journeys you can embark upon.

We are here to support you on your path to discovering your most authentic and loving self.

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Visualization

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Have you ever used visualization to manifest specific outcomes in your life?

Most people that we speak with think that visualization is something that has only been used by athletes. Very few people outside of the athletic world have tapped into the power of positive visualization.

We show all of our clients how to do this successfully in their own lives, regardless of their backgrounds or life experiences. Why? Because, science has proven that the way the neurons fire within our brains, there is little to no difference in a powerful visualization and the actual experience of physically performing something.

Many athletes have used visualization for attaining new
techniques or before big games or matches. I used to spend 1-3 hours a day broken up into 15-30 minute sessions visualizing the very same. The accomplishments of the desired outcomes happened with more ease and quickened the timing of the desired results. Whether it’s sports or your personal life, visualization can help you achieve your desired outcome that much quicker.

You can use positive visualization for anything and everything in your life from the spiritual, emotional, social, mental, or physical worlds. It’s amazing the power and influence it has over every aspect of your well-being.

This will help empower you with everything in life. You may want to emanate a stronger sense of self and authenticity, you may want to get rid of a bad habit that is no longer serving you and you have a need to create and establish a new habit.

Visualization with the positive energetic feeling attached to it will help you to attain those new habits, dreams, and goals much quicker and with more ease. How does visualization empower you? Everything we create in our lives happens first within our thoughts. Thoughts and the energy always precedes any type of personal manifestation. You can change your attitudes about anything in your life by consciously visualizing it first.

If you are creating something new for yourself, a new way of being and existing in the world, or even interacting with others, using visualization will get you the desired result. Continue to consistently visualize what you want and couple it with the energetic frequency that establishes the new way of being and it will align to become a reality in your physical world.

Empower yourself to become your most authentic self by using the power of visualization.

We are here to assist you in learning how to visualize for your highest timeline and dreams.

-Soulful Wellness